Monday, July 2nd, 2012
Join me in welcoming Kelli Cooper to Highlighted Author
Author Kelli Cooper is a wife and stay-at-home mom of three. She has a Bachelor of Arts degree in English and music and a Master of Science degree in education. Kelli is dedicated to using the challenges she has faced in her life to help others get through similiar situations and hopes that each person who reads her book will come away with a better understanding of herself, her need for Christ, and God’s unfailing faithfulness, love and support for her.
Author Kelli Cooper loves the Lord first and foremost. She is a stay-at-home mother of three amazing children, but what got her here is that she is a wife to a great husband…and a daughter-in-law by default. In her book, Love the Unlovable: In-Laws, Kelli shares from a heart of experience, her most real struggles with becoming a daughter-in-law. These are typical in-law issues that most daughters-in-law or mothers-in-law deal with from time to time, transcending the personal circumstances that surround them. As one reviewer stated, “The circumstances may be different for everyone, but the problems are the same and so are the answers.”
Kelli’s goal is to show others that they can overcome the marriage-busting issues that in-laws so often bring to the table in a relationship. You can get through it! You don’t have to allow them to ruin your marriage, but it’s not always easy. Though there are not always concrete answers to each situation, Kelli hopes that her personal situation will illustrate the importance of loving your in-laws, with or without a relationship with them.
Kelli is dedicated to using the challenges she has faced in her life to help others get through similar situations and hopes that each person who reads her book will come away with a better understanding of herself, her need for Christ, and God’s unfailing faithfulness, love and support for her.
Kelli grew up in Minnesota and has recently moved back there with her husband, Mike, to raise their family. Mike and Kelli are involved in several ministries in their church and hope to use their situation to bring others one step nearer to the Savior.
About the book Love the Unlovable: In-Laws:
Every marriage has issues. And every mother-in-law, father-in-law, daughter-in-law, son-in-law, sister-in-law, and brother-in-law is difficult to love at some point. In Love the Unlovable: In-Laws, Kelli Cooper addresses major issues that arise after uniting two people in marital bliss, with the intention of helping people learn to live with nightmare in-laws. Inside you’ll find biblically based, practical advice on how God would have us handle these challenging people that He has placed in our lives—whether we like it or not.
Unfortunately, a close relationship with one’s in-laws is far from the norm. Kelli Cooper speaks from a heart of experience in a genuine attempt to help others who find themselves in similar situations to rescue their relationships before they are too far gone. If nothing else, Love the Unlovable: In-laws is a guide to survival—how to deal with the less than ideal!
This book was written with many purposes in mind. The main purpose is to help women in the positions of both daughter-in-law and mother-in-law accept and cope with their situations; however, it is also a venue to share some of my personal experiences, which, some people may find difficult to believe. I also have shared some true stories told to me by friends or acquaintances that could certainly be considered sitcom or soap opera material.
In order to understand some of the stories I am about to share, some background information might be necessary. My husband, Mike, is the third of four children, including one girl, and three boys to follow. During his teenage years, Mike’s parents more or less told him that he would never really amount to anything and that he might as well live at home the rest of his life and take care of them. His siblings, however, were treated as though they had the world at their fingertips. They could do no wrong. While the other kids each had their own bedrooms and everything else they could ask for, my husband slept on a bed in the corner of the basement.
Because of this, among many other things, my husband had extremely low self-esteem. When I met him, though I was unaware at the time, he was sixteen years old and on the verge of being an alcoholic. He was on the road to nowhere. I was both surprised and appalled to find out that not one member of his family had ever encouraged him. He wasn’t even required to do his homework because his parents thought he wasn’t smart enough to do it anyway so there was no point.
When we started dating, I absolutely could not believe that he was failing classes simply because of a lack of effort. He did, however, with a little encouragement, start to put forth a bit of effort and made the honor roll in high school. He also put himself through college after being told he was too stupid to make it, at the top of his class. He turned his life around and made something of it, even when the odds were against him. His parents hate this.
My husband is the only one of their children who is married, though all of them are adults. He never had a relationship with either of his parents. His dad was always too busy with his older brother while his mom was busy with his older sister. The son who is younger than my husband never really had much of a relationship until he was older, but he, being the youngest, was able to do, say, and have whatever he wanted, which provided some consolation for him.
Mike was a senior in high school when he proposed to me. We were young, but I had been on my own for two years and we had been in a long distance relationship during those two years so as a couple, we were fairly mature and the marriage, we both believed, was God-led. From the day that he proposed to me, our relationship with his parents seemed to begin a downward spiral, which was soon going to plummet, through a variety of conflicts and experiences into non-existence.
Through these experiences, I have learned many things, including how not to be when I myself am a mother-in-law. Most of all, however, I have learned that every situation in which I find myself, contains a lesson that always seems to apply to my life.
There are things that I could have done differently and there are many that I wouldn’t change. I have learned from my mistakes and hope to prevent the same mistakes being made by those who read this. Whether you are a daughter-in-law struggling with your in-laws, or a mother-in-law, struggling with yours, there are stories in this book that will make you laugh in disbelief. There are experiences you can share in. Above all, there are snippets of advice from God’s word that could change both your heart and your relationship with the in-law in your life.
Get your copy here:
Tate Publishing: http://www.tatepublishing.com/bookstore/book.php?w=978-1-60696-285-5